Forty-year-old Maree, a researcher, remembers being picky in her 20s. Now she looks at women in that age group and wants to advise them, "If you find someone, go for it. Don't muck about. Get in quick".
[...] "A lot of my single girlfriends are really beautiful, intelligent girls, nothing wrong with them. But they just can't find a man. [The men are] all taken or else total geeks."
Maree is currently dating a divorced man, something she had vowed she would not do when she was in her 20s.
"It's a terrible thing to say, but divorced men are a good thing. For us single older women, we'd be history if it wasn't for marriage breakups and divorced men, because there would be none there."
My immediate problems with this piece of 'journalism':
- What is this about (hetero) women being 'history' without a man?
- Why do women need to stop being 'picky'? Are women to accept any available man (who is not a geek, of course)?
- Why do older women especially need to lower their standards and 'get in quick'? Is there something so terrible about being a single, independent woman of age?
- If a women isn't beautiful and intelligent, is she flawed? Is there something 'wrong' with her?
- And what's so bad about geeks, anyway? ;-)
Wasn't anyone paying attention in the seventies? That might seem a bit rich coming from someone who was born in '77. However, those issues have been passed down to those of us who were not of age in that time, we can't help but enjoy the impact of those freedoms that were won for us.
n.b.- This made the news? With this article, plus the one about the NZ Police going 'undercover' to catch drunk drivers (well not ANYMORE) in ice-cream trucks http://www.nzherald.co.nz/section/story.cfm?c_id=1&objectid=10413576, I'm starting to wonder if international readers may think NZers are 'backwards'...
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Hi Zillah, thought I'd stop in and say hello.
There was some discussion elsewhere last year about how the birth rate is declining in Japan, with one reason being women are not putting up with the crap women have been faced with in the past, and men are not adapting... anyway, many guys would post how the women were being unfair and endangering society, etc. Yeah, right. They have made a choice to not put up with the nonsense, and applaud their decision.
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